Kelle vs Jessica
In the red corner we have Kelle Hampton owner and author of the blog ‘enjoying the small things’ Mother of 2 girls current followers 12936.
In the blue corner we have Jessica…someone owner and author of the blog ‘the 24 year age gap’ Mother of 1 girl current followers 58.
On Kelle’s side- She’s ‘enjoying the small things’ small things in Kelle’s life include extravagant parties and luxurious holidays, she’ll tell you that any lemon,no matter how bitter can be made into lemonade and she probably has the recipe close at hand too. However if you are an ‘average’ mum with an ‘average’ life you probably won’t find any lemons amongst her ramblings. She’s a perfect mother and wife and she WILL tell you all about it. She is loveable and cutesy and her ‘the sky is so ever blue’ *eyelash flutter* can be hard to resist. She’s great with a camera, but anyone who uses a camera and then edits ALL their pictures knows that it takes some time, time that she cannot possibly be fully focused on her kids. And anyone who reads her blog will know that every step of their day is photographed to the point where any one of her followers from around the world could be place in her house and recognise it. We know her family so well you’d be comfortable enough to give them a welcoming hug!
So why do I like Kelle and her blog?
Because while she is so busy using words and pretty baby pictures to paint her picturesque life all her insecurities are shining through. Her constant need for approval, her need for being accepted and that what she is doing is good enough. She likes having ‘followers’ and literally they are followers in the true sense, not that they just read her blog. Read a few comments to see what I mean, they want to know how to BE her. It is a bit creepy. But I like it because Like Kelle I have insecurities too. I’m just not as overly paranoid about having them exposed, I’m sure people could pin point a few of mine, I just try to keep them in check so as not to burden anyone else. Like Kelle there have been times where I have glossed things over, it’s not hard while ‘mummy blogging’ to leave out a tantrum or two and considering the amount of adoring fans who praise Kelle daily for her efforts I don’t think she’ll be changing anytime soon.
I also like what she has done for Down Syndrome. She has brought a lot of awareness to the cause and gotten a lot of people on board to support the continual work needed in the area of education for Down Syndrome kids. What I don’t like is that her daughter who actually has down syndrome is in a little whirl wind of publicity. Kelle has used her special needs to procure tonnes of sponsors, donations, sympathy, praise and yes more attention. NO not for her daughter for HER! I have known some down syndrome people who have led normal lives, they are some of the kindest, warmest most caring people. But I doubt these people were brought up with a mum who blogs daily about her ‘almond shaped eyes’ and the lack of a ‘normal life’ she will have and about her other daughter being lost in a ‘sea of special needs.’
Kelle at one stage published a post entitled ‘shaken’ it was about a tragic accident. A son of her friend had been killed. And it affected Kelle so badly that it interrupted her life. She had to leave star bucks of all places, and she’d only just ordered her drink! I personally remember this post it was sad. Kelle’s friend must be devasted beyond comprehension. She lost a son, but Kelle squeezed those lemons and made her lemonade once again and in the end realised her life was at least still perfect despite her friends loss.
Kelle may be cute, but she’s just not cluey.
On Jessica’s side- She’s got plenty of lemons and she’s not afraid to throw them at anyone who even mentions the word lemonade. She’s a mum of one and doesn’t really seem to understand the notion of ‘ideal parenting’ I’m not saying she’s a bad mum but she isn’t striving for perfection well at the very least appearance of perfection. She’s her own person with her own mind. I admit I need to read more of her blog as I have only recently stumbled upon it while looking for Kelle’s blog. I found Jessica’s post entitled ‘I hate Kelle Hampton’ by accident and because I actually like Kelle I decided to check it out.
So why do I like Jessica and her blog?
Firstly she had the guts to write a post like that despite only 12936 people having an opposing opinion. She isn’t painting her life perfect, far from it. She admits that she’d like to be back at work and isn’t into crafting of baking or impressing people. I like her bluntness, her bravery when standing her ground, I will admit I think she comes of a bit spiteful and mean but she’s passionate and got her point across very well. I like that she’s being herself. And I can relate to her difficulty at being herself regardless of what people think, its tough!
So Jessica wrote her post entitled ‘I hate Kelle Hampton’ in response to Kelle’s post titled ‘Shaken’ Jessica decided to comment on this post of Kelle’s as she felt passionately about it. She wrote something along the lines of ‘congratulations once again on turning something that has nothing to do with you into being every bit about you…’ Thats the jist of it. You’ll need to read Jessica’s post, trust me you won’t be disappointed.
So me being me, took everything Jessica said to heart. What she thought was a vaild and appropriate comment was deleted almost immediately. Kelle had culled that nasty little lemon before too many of her perfect little followers had a chance to read it and possibly use their own minds to think that just maybe Jessica had a point. And guess what? I am guilty of being a Kelle. I deleted a message that I classed as a lemon. I deleted it while at my strongest and toughest, meaning I was at my weakest and most vulnerable and I just didn’t want to hear it. But Because I don’t want to be a Kelle I am going to include that deleted comment.
It went something like this, like I said I deleted it, but I am sure that Mr/Mrs anonymous will correct me if I am wrong.
You are nice as pie to people’s face and then malicious and manipulative and then act oblivious to it. Treat others as you wish to be treated, or karma will get you.
That is the comment I received from Anon aka anonymous after my post entitled ‘discovering new talents and learning to live with them.’
I don’t want my ‘mummy blog’ to be like Kelle’s, I don’t live the perfect life, and I am not the perfect mother or partner, however I can see how she could have easily become addicted to omitting things like emotions other than happiness and joy residing in her home. I can see the appeal of living in a magical fantasy of baking and crafts and giggling children and it’s not so hard to create that on a blog. I just don’t want to be like her. She is more delusional than me! I can brighten things up and use words to make things ‘pretty’ but reality is grounding,….normal even.
At the same time I don’t want my ‘mummy blog’ to be like Jessica’s, I am not near the end of my rope, I get that I am not only a mum and I have wishes and desires outside of motherhood but I do enjoy it. I like the occasional crafting session and baking is kinda fun.
I don’t want to dramatise the perfection in my life OR dramatise the mundane either.
But I must add that like Kelle, each and every one of us has or will be guilty ofsugar-coating things and have that want to pretty up our lives for the sake of others. And like Jessica we do have unpleasant emotions and qualities. Most of us are a little more balanced. Well would like to think so.
I am hoping I can have a Cristie type ‘mummy blog’ where reality is enough. I’d like to be able to make the decision to have picture perfect days where I can decide to leave out arguments with 9 year olds, hair pulling between 4 and 3 year olds, 1 year olds peeing on my carpet. I’d also like to have days where I can be emotional and not the ideal person, mother or partner. I am as inconsistent as the next person. But I try my hardest and THATS what I want my mummy blog to be about.
A sit down with Kelle, Cristie and Jessica at a round table with a glass placed in the middle would go something like this –
Kelle -‘Oh that cup is soooo pretty *eyelash flutter* and look at that! It is half full!!! *clap clap* I bet it’s ALWAYS like that! *giggle*
Cristie- ‘Hmmm I agree Kelle, it is half full. *temple scratch* but nothing last forever, and it is also in fact half empty.
Jessica- ‘Its a cup. get over it.’ She may or may not add ‘idiots’ to the end of that. I do not assume I know these people wholly and souly from reading their blogs.
So these two ladies are now my new favorite reads. Both at each end of the spectrum.
So to Anon, I hope that unlike Jessica you now feel like you have been heard because yes I heard you loud and clear. I am sorry I deleted your valid opinion and if you feel the need to comment further I won’t delete that either. I don’t want to be a Kelle and be oblivious to the bad, and I don’t want to be like Jessica and not fully appreciate the good. I understand that not everyone will like me and it is ok as confusing as it sometimes can be. I do not pretend to be an angel and I can play the victim very well if I feel the occasion requires it. But if you knew me, which I can only assume you do not due to your decision to remain nameless,you would know I am fairly upfront when something bothers me. I deleted your comment because I did not agree with it. I still don’t but I cannot get around saying things like ‘each to their own’ and ‘everyone’s opinion matters’ if I don’t actually follow through on it.
So there you go.
So the verdict on mummy blogging???
Kelle has issues. Jessica has issues. Yes, I too, have issues.
Perhaps that’s why we blog about our lives. And perhaps that’s why people like to read about it.